Interrupting Patterns Moods and Negativity
January 24, 2007 by Ryan Merlin · Leave a Comment
This morning was a fantastic example of having a choice in every moment of how you want to feel and act given any situation. My roommate was in the kitchen, feeling really down and when I asked her what’s up she said she couldn’t sleep because her mind was so “busy.” And now felt like crap from not sleeping. The mood was thick and heavy, you could almost touch it. So I broke it.
I asked her if she’s ready to make a different choice. Skeptical, she said yes, so I grabbed her and we were dancing around the kitchen while I was sining Sinatra (with my omelette burning no less). We were laughing so hard the energy was electric.
Question: Did I change her mind and interrupt her pattern?
No! I only provided a more attractive and enticing alternative. I gave her an opportunity for her to interrupt the pattern herself. It was her choice to let go of the garbage mood and limiting pattern, to reclaim her day. Her whole day will look different now, from an easy 5 minute wacky time. It’s so easy!
Everyone always has a choice between feeling excited, vibrant, in control, energetic; and feeling tired, overwhelmed, concerned, what would you choose? It’s just too easy sometimes to forget that’s a choice we have every moment of the day. Start your day off right!
Side note: Giving is a sure way to receive. I myself found an incredible surge of inspiration after giving that gift to her. That’s the way it always is.
Take a moment today and inspire yourself or someone around you. Make it a goal for the day. Just watch what happens.
Brain Sex ID Test
January 5, 2007 by Ryan Merlin · Leave a Comment
Which side of your brain is dominant? Is your brain sex profile more masculine or feminine? Do you know why you’re so good at certain things and not others. Such as ability to memorize names, birthdays, details but always forget where you put your keys. Take a few minutes and take a fun and very interesting test from the BBC to find out what makes you process the world around you the way you do.
I really like this test since it analyzes several factors of mental performance which you can use once you know what you’re good at and not so good at:
- Spatial – how you picture space, visualization, imagine, perception.
- Spacial memory – ability to remember and recognize differences in relative positions of objects in space. Navigation, distinction of slight differences.
- Which side of the brain is dominant – verbal and analytical vs. visual, spatial and intuitive processes.
- Eyes/Emotion identification – Ability to judge other’s emotions.
- Level of systemizing – Systemisers prefer to investigate how systems work.
- Finger length? not sure on this one
- Type of facial structure you find attractive.
- 3D Mental shapes – artistic vs scientific brain
- Verbal fluency – Do you express yourself verbally or by actions?
- Negotiation – Aggressiveness
In case you’re wondering, I ended up balanced right smack in the middle. But reading my results seems to me that it says that I’m slightly more intuitive/girly, just don’t compete against me.
Dream, Imagine & Play Like A Kid Again
December 26, 2006 by Ryan Merlin · Leave a Comment
The spirit of Chrismas is an incredible reminder of what it means to be a kid. What usually comes to mind when you think of children? Excitement, adventure, play, imagination, creative, learning, fearless, energy, not afraid to be themselves, laugh and cry. So here’s my question for you:
What would it take, for you to allow your inner child to come out and play again?
One of the reasons that I think Chrismas is so powerful is that it is an “excuse” for most people to be a kid again. Everyone makes exceptions to their normal routine to do more, buy more, give more, play more, and love more. Chrismas is an excuse that is built into our culture. It’s accepted that anyone of any age, gender, race, even religion to break the patterns of what is “normal”. In fact the whole idea of an “excuse” to do anything, has to do with getting approval from someone else. Otherwise you would just it anyway, not giving a crap what anyone else thinks. Right? I’ll tell you right now that noone else is ever going to give you permission to be happy. That’s your job.
I’ve found that people have a million reasons why they won’t allow their true selves to come out and play, but it almost always comes down to the unconscious fear of rejection, ridicule, not being accepted. It’s a social/cultural pressure put on us to conform. We even have strong terms and lables for it, “they’re being childish”, “immature”, “They need to grow up”.
But kids don’t buy it, they’re not like that, why? Typically they haven’t been conditioned to worry about or feel held back by the social/cultural pressure. Everyone has dreams and imagination as a kid. What happens to those dreams, do they really dissapear? I don’t buy it. They just get smothered and buried by the voices, fears and doubts of others. Is it your voice that says you can’t or shouldn’t? My guess is no. It usually comes from someone you trust, someone close, who’s opinion you respect. Of course they don’t mean to hold you back, they’re just trying to “look out for you” to protect you. Unless they’re aware of their intetion, many times people will default to trying to protect you from getting your hopes up only to see you fail and feel bad, hurt, sad. So even though they may be good intentions, they’re misguided.
My message is simply this: When you connect with your inner child, you connect with what it is you truly desire. It’s the key to unlimited creativity, performance, stonger relationships, enjoyment, adventure, and so on. It’s the first place to start when trying to create or achieve 
anything in your life since it’s not determined by anyone else but you. You own it 100%, you control it, it’s your dream of what it means to win. For me that has to do with constantly pushing myself beyond my current limits, developing, expanding. Whether it’s racing my bike, skydiving, traveling, training my mind, coaching others, developing personal and business effectiveness and strategy, etc. One of my favorite mantras is Never Miss An Opportunity. And this last week I’ve had a ton of opportunites to be a kid again like this one with my cousin Cade, building a gingerbread house.
Every moment of the day you have an opportunity, a chance to make a new choice of living an exciting and fulfilling life. All you have to do is make the choice to seize that opportunity. What (or who) holds you back from being yourself and trusting yourself? Give yourself a chance to play, explore, have fun. There will never be a better time then now.
Related:
Take A Quantum Leap In Your Creativity And Results
Money And Your Surrounding Environment
Other Links:
Tools For Personal Growth
Carl Jung – Archetypes – Divine Child